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Their Belongings

I can't bring myself to throw their belongings away (or look at photos)....what's wrong with me?

By Janet Schnell, MSW, Survivor, former Suicide Prevention Action Network USA board member

Nothing. I stand by the adage do nothing for a year. Suicide grief is so unique the year after holds many ups and downs. If you don't need to get rid of the belongs hold onto them until you are ready to decide.


09/01/2016 at 1:59 PM
My child live with my mom wen she did by her own hands is it wrong that 3 weeks I packed her room up n bring it all to my house I jus felt like I wanted her self with me ppl tell me I shouldn't have done it so soon but I jus wanted everything of hers with me at me house she was 17 she did want she did on July 29 2016 but we had call her death July 31 her 18th bday was 2 months away sept 294th she was so post come stay with me that weekend then change her mind I feel like I should of made her come still maybe she would be here still maybe she would of talked to me n told me how she was feeling that day I could of help she never told me she thought bout suicide she was always a happy person always made jokes n did funny things like it was her front from hurting inside
05/10/2013 at 9:18 PM
I also agree with waiting a year. It has been a year and a half for me and I am glad I have kept everything that I have. I know at some time I will have to part with certain things but it feels too disrespectful to me. That is for me personally. I do see a time in the future when I will willingly let go where I need to. @Annette: I still have my daughter's urn as well. I could not find anywhere that felt 'right' to place her. I just came across a place that has something called "Psalmstones" and they are for cremated ashes and are similar to a headstone. When I saw it, I knew it would be right for my girl. Each must do as their heart and conscience compels them to. Blessings to you all~
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