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Suicide Is Not Self-Murder

By Kevin Caruso, www.suicide.org

Over 90 percent of the people who die by suicide have a mental illness at the time of their death. They die by suicide because they ARE NOT thinking clearly and are suffering from excruciating emotional pain.

And they feel that they MUST die by suicide to end their pain.

But there are many people who are IGNORANT about suicide and use the deeply offensive and patently INCORRECT term “self-murder” when they talk about suicide.

But murder is defined as “the unlawful killing of one human by another, especially with premeditated malice.” So, as any intelligent person can see, suicide unquestionably DOES NOT fit the definition for murder…at all.

The first problem with labeling suicide as “self-murder” is that it implies suicide is a crime. But suicide is NOT a crime. People who die by suicide are trying to stop their pain. There is NO criminal component to suicide. Period.

Next, the word “murder” implies a very evil intent to bring the most severe harm imaginable upon another person. But with suicide there is NO evil intent and NO desire to bring harm upon another person. Again, people who die by suicide want to stop their pain.

And “murder” means the killing of another person. But there is no other person killed in a suicide.

Contorting the word “murder” by placing the prefix “self” in front of it causes the new word “self-murder” to be a nonsensical, twisted term– a term that is oftentimes used by people with a NEGATIVE (and ignorant) agenda against people who die by suicide and against suicide survivors.

For example, those who claim that suicide is a sin will oftentimes state that those who die by suicide commit “self-murder.” Thus they try to advance their idiotic agenda by using the word “murder” as a WEAPON of hate...a weapon to denigrate and dishonor suicide angels and suicide survivors. But the individuals who advance this idiocy are only exhibiting their own IGNORANCE by making such statements.

Suicide is NOT a sin.

Suicide is NOT a crime.

And suicide is NOT self-murder.


10/31/2015 at 12:36 AM
David Holman
What if no one loves you but you have no enemies? As a former counselor, I saw people whose pain was unimaginable. On those rare occasions in which they destroyed their body to escape the hopelessness they felt, all I could feel was profound compassion. Why would I want to add to their pain on the other side of death? Given that, am I better than God on that score?
09/23/2015 at 3:55 PM
My boyfriend took his life in June. Depression of 35+ years got the best of him. Though I was only with him less than a year, I understood him. I loved this man unconditionally, was always non judgmental, kind, compassionate and wore my love for Jesus for all to see. I saw a beautiful change stirring up inside of him. Yet, his family forgot how important it was to lift their loved ones when they're down. This is when family is needed the most. His family shut him out. His pain was more than he could bare. I momentarily filled his heart with love and acceptance!!!! In the end, my regret was not recognizing that my last hug would be my final goodbye to a man I loved. I have no doubt his love for me. Sometimes in life, its simply not enough. Now, the family is quick to blame. I see their guilt rising fierce, wanting so much for me to carry the burden of their loss. He was my loss too. I journeyed through this chapter of my boyfriends life without one family member taking time to spend with us. Not one day, not even one hour. Over 8 months of absence. And then I ask myself, who's the blessed one here? I chose to love and build memories to look back on and cherish in tragedy. They will need a long time to work through their individual guilt, and ultimate forgiveness. It's simple. Love one another. For those with depression, have compassion and don't turn away! Yes, I'm not saying its easy, yet its the right way to be supportive! Thank you! Brenda
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