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By Rev. Charles T. Rubey Director, LOSS Program, Administration/Program Development

The most recent publication of the new catechism of the Roman Catholic Church states that “it is wrong for a person to take their life." The catechism does go on to clarify that in many instances there are extenuating circumstances that will mitigate the responsibility of the person’s actions. It is unfortunate that the catechism states this in such a way. It is open to misunderstanding on the part of many of the members of the Church. Such a statement continues the misconception of the whole area of suicide and the ultimate destiny of people who complete suicide. Without going down the slippery slope of the issue, it should be treated with a little more sensitivity and understanding of the issues that plague survivors of a completed suicide. Survivors have enough struggles in surviving the death of a loved one from suicide. They should not have to worry about the final destiny of a loved one. If someone were to ask me if it is permissible to take their life, I would not hesitate to say that it is not right to do so. After the fact, I would have a completely different response.

My belief is that God judges us negatively when we act out of malice. A person who completes suicide is not acting out of malice but is acting out of desperation. Their death is a clear statement that they can no longer tolerate the pain that has engulfed them. The pain has become more than they can handle and they are looking for a way out of their pain. They are not malicious but desperate. They do not want to “hurt God." They want peace from their internal torture that has become unbearable. I would find it hard to believe in a God who would deny peace and tranquility to a person whose life was devoid of such peace and tranquility. The reason that a person engages in such an act is to find peace and to escape from the torture that has made their life so unbearable.


11/20/2014 at 2:00 PM
I have been fighting suicide for the past months. A surgical error has left me in constant physical pain and mental anguish. I hold on by a thread every day. The only thing keeping me alive is fearing what it will do to members of my family that I love dearly. They do not understand the mental pain of depression and how it can eat away at your soul and your will to live. Never ending pain, day by day, hour by hour and minute by minute is unbearable. If you have a friend or family member suffering please comfort them every day. When one loses that support they then feel that all is lost and ending their life is the only way to end their pain.
10/12/2014 at 9:14 AM
We have lost our third home. Now living with my parents in my mid fifties. We moved to Florida from NY and am earning 25% less than I was in NY. My wife has MS and I am a type 1 diabetic. I am always sad and my wife is also. She had no hope nor do I. I have prayed for years for Christ to help us. I have thanked him everyday for what we have but this is unbearable. I have lost my faith and I know my wife has. I'm done with this crap
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