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Losing My Daughter

By Meredith Romero, Albuquerque, New Mexico

My name is Meredith Romero and I lost my 12-year-old daughter to suicide on May 11, 2010. She was a month away from her 13th birthday. We just went through her first year anniversary and her birthday which would have been on June 10th.  After she hung herself, she didn’t die immediately, instead a day later from complications resulting from the hanging. We later found letters she had written. They were not so much suicide letters but letters telling us she loved us. We also found out of an incident that involved a boy that may have contributed to why she did it.  We will never know if she meant to do it or if it was an accident in which she intended to scare me.

Whatever it was, she took her own life. She showed absolutely no signs of depression. If anything she made plans for the week and weekend. Words cannot express what I feel. Not only did I lose my child but I lost her to suicide and I found her. At first, I questioned myself asking why and trying to figure out if there was anything I could have done to prevent this since she did it right in our own home. I was full of guilt for many months going back into the past wondering if I failed her as a mother. The first thing I wondered was if the life I gave her was worth living. I was a single mother, her father had little involvement in her life, and when he was in it, he usually did not make it pleasurable.

I never in a million years thought I would be the survivor of my daughter’s suicide. Through therapy, I have come to the realization that I couldn’t have done anything to prevent it and that I was a good mother who did the best I could. My daughter and I were very close and her loss has created such a void in my heart. I thought I knew her well but I still question that. I think the hardest part of dealing with her suicide is the “Why?” I replay that day over and over and just can’t understand what would make her decide to end her life  I know she loved me and she was a very happy child.  One of the things I can’t cope with is people judging my daughter and making her seem like a bad child. I have feelings of anger at her for doing what she did, but more than anything I feel sadness and ache for her. This has taught me that you can’t hide from suicide and it can happen to anyone. I know she is in heaven and watching out for all who loved her and miss her.


09/21/2014 at 8:52 PM
Yes, it is something no one can understand unless they have experienced it, I found Mekalah hanging in her closet 5/20/2011. My daughter was perfect , I saw no depression or problems either, my life is forever changed, I have my good days and bad days. I will never be the same, but I hope one day I can help someone through this tragedy. Her friends knew what she was going to do, she was messaging a friend when she did it, she didn't call 911, why. That will be my message , if anyone tells you they are suicidal say something!
09/20/2014 at 10:28 PM
Mekalah Was my daughter. I still cannot believe this nightmare of mine and my family, it was May 19, 2011 I found her in the morning, waking her up for school. She was hanging in her closet. The worst day of my life, no one can understand why I can't move on, it's a pain in my heart, like a stab that will never heal, I don't like it but that's what I feel. No one understands
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