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Suggestions for Coping with Suicide as a Family

It is important to sit down together to talk, cry, rage, feel guilty and even to be silent. Communication is the key to survival in the aftermath of suicide. At the same time there should be respect for each person’s individual way of handling grief. Some family members will grieve privately, others openly, and others a combination of these two styles. In many ways each family member must grieve alone. Here are some suggestions to help with family grief.

1. Pay attention to your family members when you’re with them.  Let them know that you love them.

2. Be sensitive to how other family members feel.

3. Listen to what is meant as well as what is being said.

4. Accept the other person and what they say.

5. Don’t give each other the silent treatment. This has many negative effects.

6. Sit back and listen. Let other family members have an opportunity to talk.

7. Be sure to hug and touch each other at every opportunity.

8. If depression, grief, or problems in your family are getting out of control, seek the advice of a counselor.

9. Recognize that anniversaries, birthdays and special holidays will be difficult for the family and each member of the family.

10. Remember you can’t help anyone if you are falling apart. Do what you can do, get help for what you can’t do, and trust in the help that God gives.

11.  Studies show that a bereaved person’s self-esteem is extremely low. Survivors should work on their image of themselves and help each family member to think and feel good about themselves.

12. If there is a suicide note, discuss as a family what to do with it. If you think it will only bring you pain, then have a private burning and commit its con­tents to God.

Copyright © HOPE FOR BEREAVED. All Rights Reserved. HOPE FOR BEREAVED, www.hopeforthebereaved.com. Used with permission. Thank you also to Linda Flatt, author, The Basics: Facilitating a Suicide Survivors Support Group.


02/03/2017 at 11:29 AM
Grace McKinnon
I lost my brother to suicide on October 25, 2016. Simply writing this brings the harsh reality to life that he is physically gone. No words offer consolation or peace.
04/23/2012 at 10:22 PM
Kerry Ryan-Kuhn
Joyce, I'm so very sorry. I lost my son to suicide the same week your grandson died. It is the hardest thing I've ever endured. My heart goes out to you. Kerry
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